Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Would you say that you are your own best friend?

I was for a good 20 years I thought I was my best friend and I hated the word "best friend" because I didn't think I could ever find someone who would stick around long enough for the good stuff to pass let alone be my anchor.

Then college happened, I've always been friends with guys and even today have more guy friends than girls, but that's obviously not by design. I met Darpan when he was my junior in college and we bonded over I don't even know what, mostly insults I think. But it wasn't till I passed out of college that I realised how important this friendship was to me.  He kept me sane, made days brighter and we have one of those let's take on the world talks. Nothing helps bond with certain people like cheap humour and Darpan is more proof for that.

My second best friend was not too far behind, Swati. Swati is the rock you cling on to. She's my best friend, she's the sister, the soul mate, she's the one I turn to on the darkest days.

I was my own best friend, I still am on some days. But then some days we need someone to tell us we'll sail through. I don't tell my best friends everything, they don't need to know everything. I know they don't tell me everything. But I know the day they ask me, or the day I ask them, I will get only the truth, immaterial of how ugly it is.

it is very challenging to be your own and only best friend. To not have a wall to bounce it off against. To not have the comfort of having someone to call at 3 in the night. Someone who'll tell you it'll be okay. Being your own best friend includes a lot of not forgiving because there is nobody outside yourself to tell you that you are being too tough on yourself.

Of course being your own best also means being your worst critic and that's also why you need a friend who'll tell you to suck it up and be real. Someone who'll tell you your work isn't winning the Pulitzer but isn't something to be ashamed of either. I think being your own best friend is great, obviously, but being in a place in your life where you don't feel the need to be your own best friend is even better

1 comment:

  1. There are times when I'm perfectly happy with myself.... and there are other days when I neee to talk to some, insult, or even shout.... that's why these best friends comes handy. They keep us sane in this perfectly insane world. :)


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